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Don’t Decorate for the Camera

Recently, I listened to a podcast called: “Why is British Style Back?” featuring interior designers Penny Morrison and Sue Jones. Part of the discussion that I found intriguing was the differences between how British and American people decorate. In short, Americans are hyper-focused on form – the way things look at the expense of comfort …

Don’t Decorate for the Camera

Recently, I listened to a podcast called: “Why is British Style Back?” featuring interior designers Penny Morrison and Sue Jones. Part of the discussion that I found intriguing was the differences between how British and American people decorate. In short, Americans are hyper-focused on form – the way things look at the expense of comfort and function. British people decorate for comfort above all and then aim to make things lovely.

Penny Morrison observes: “I think a lot of times Americans decorate as though it’s been done for a photograph. And if you take a photograph of your own room you’ll immediately see how untidy it is, but if you’re in the room it doesn’t look like that”.

This photograph taken with my cell phone isn’t the best quality photo. There are books stacked beside the loveseat, a coaster on the windowsill, and the neck of Matt’s guitar poking up behind the loveseat. These things show that this room is lived in and enjoyed! The message is: “Come in, curl up on the sofa, read a book, sip some tea, or play a few songs ~ and we do! I must agree with Penny Morrison’s advice: a comfy sofa is something Matt and I enjoy every single day. When I was looking for a sofa to replace Matt’s sofa it took fourteen months to find just the right one. During that time we made the best of a really ugly sofa!

“When I’m decorating for someone, the first thing I’ll say if you haven’t got a very large budget, the most important thing to have is incredibly well made, good quality, comfortable and really deep sofas, and fantastically comfortable beds.” Penny Morrison

This common sense approach is brilliant focusing your mind and budget on getting the most important things right. This concept of comfort and function over appearances is exactly what many homeowners discovered when stationed at home through the lockdown during Covid. Many people discovered they weren’t comfortable in their homes, nor did their homes serve them well. The effect of this discovery is still causing ripples today as many people continue to work from home for all or a portion of their day. Having a comfortable, well-arranged home has become a greater priority for Americans and thus the resurgence in the popularity of the English country house style.

The house is for the people, not Instagram. Your house is to live in, not just to look at.

So if you are shifting gears to create a comfortable, useable home where should you focus your attention and spend your decorating dollars? According to Penny Morrison: “I’d rather see a bare bedroom with a really comfortable bed and lovely linen sheets on a concrete floor with crude pots as bedside tables. The key comfort comes from those things.”

Not only do the English people focus on comfort, but they also value a little “patina” on their things.

Sue Jones, owner of OKA a British-designed furniture and accessories company, says: “Don’t be too precious, save your best for every day. Don’t just bring it out because it’s a special occasion, use everything you’ve got, and get pleasure, and let it wear out a bit. There’s nothing worse than a brand-new leather chair. The British look upon age, and marks, and slight deterioration as an asset.” Sue Jones

This idea of choosing and even preferring things a bit worn has many perks. First of all, marks and wear are an easy way of making someone feel comfortable using something. In other words patina gives permission. Next, sometimes slight deterioration of something can mean a reduced price. Worn things can cost less. I don’t know how many times I’ve bought something off of Marketplace that was a bit worn for a much more comfortable price than a new version. As long as the structure is sound furniture can either be mended, or reupholstered. This is another reason to “buy well, buy slowly” as interior designer Rita Konig advises.

I hope you’ve enjoyed tossing around ideas for different approaches to putting a home together. Until next time,

Take care,

Rachel

Join the conversation

  1. Marilyn July 26, 2024

    So well said

  2. Geri Gowers July 26, 2024

    Hi Rachel! This has given me a new appreciation for my 20 year old leather sofa. When we moved here to SC, my husband wanted the leather sofa and chair and though the leather has become worn and part of the sofa a bit saggy, it is the most comfortable as is the chair (and the set has since been discontinued, so I can’t replace it with the same one). My husband is no longer here, which made it difficult to want to part with it, but I was almost ready to til I read this blog. Thanks again for not only the inspiration, but also saving me some money and reminding me that my old things that I still love are ok to keep.

    1. Barbara July 26, 2024

      Rachel,
      I appreciate your thoughts on making a home the most comfortable place to be.
      I agree with that philosophy one hundred percent! As a certified interior decorator I always find that you can have both a beautiful home and a comfortable home at the same time. Buy what you love and it will always work for your purposes. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder!!

      1. Rachel Stone July 29, 2024

        Well said, Miss Barbara!

    2. Rachel Stone July 29, 2024

      Oh, this is so good to hear! Yes, the old things you still love are absolutely ok to keep ~ they are a part of your story! Thank you for sharing, Miss Geri.

  3. Ilene July 26, 2024

    This is sooooo true! I said this before, but if I like the way it looks that’s the way it stays. The last time I changed anything in my house after Mark died was in my bedroom. I can’t remember how many years ago that was but it hasn’t changed one bit since then either. Anyway, my point (and yours) is, it’s comfortable, fairly well used and I enjoy the way it looks. And like Geri, a lot of things still remind me of Mark.

    1. Rachel Stone July 29, 2024

      Absolutely right!

  4. Cathy Holcombe July 26, 2024

    Hi Rachel,

    I like that you stick with what you love, not following trends with change of the wind….(Farmhouse comes to mind).
    I have been in beautiful homes that make me feel like I shouldn’t sit on the furniture. However, your home is beautiful with a welcoming feel that says “come in, sit a spell and let’s have a cup of tea”. I always look forward to your videos.

    My mom decorated in the Eclectic style. Homemade end tables and coffee tables made by my Uncle. A popsicle lamp and bowls made by my grandfather. Crocheted lace doilies made by my mom. My mom decorated with what she loved and made it all work together without looking tacky. She was never trendy and neither am I. I have always decorated in the Eclectic style using what I love, such as Early American (original Ethan Allan), Traditional, English and French country. Much of my decor is inherited with some new along with thrifted. I like to keep a comfortable and welcoming atmosphere in my home.

    1. Rachel Stone July 29, 2024

      What a nice comment! I love that even through the screen you can feel a sense of welcome. Just like your Mom, keep using what you love to make your house a home.
      Thank you so much for sharing, Miss Cathy!

  5. MiMi July 26, 2024

    My thoughts exactly. If I like it that is what counts.
    Thanks for reaffirming it.

    MiMi

    1. Rachel Stone July 29, 2024

      You’re welcome, MiMi! Thank you for sharing!

  6. Marlene July 26, 2024

    It is surprising when we start a room sometimes how we look to others for design and then gradually change to how we really want it to look. How much more comfortable it seems too, love all your ideas thanks for sharing.

    1. Rachel Stone July 29, 2024

      Yes, it is interesting how the core design elements we’ve always loved stay the same. Thanks for stopping by, Miss Marlene!

  7. Lynda Lara July 26, 2024

    Always great advice. Love all of your posts.

    1. Rachel Stone July 29, 2024

      Glad to help, thanks for being here!

  8. Ellen July 28, 2024

    We have an old couch that is so comfortable but not very pretty. We bought a basic, dark blue slipcover and are perfectly happy with it.
    we finally figured out that the only people we have to please is us. Thanks for your lovely decorating ideas and common sense approach.

    1. Rachel Stone July 29, 2024

      Perfect solution, Miss Ellen!

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